Life ..A Ladder!!!

ज़िन्दगी के अपने ही रंग होते हैं...

ज़िन्दगी के अपने ही रंग होते हैं,

अलग अलग रिश्तों के संग होते हैं,

जीवन की कलि खिलती है माँ के आँचल की छाया में,

पापा के  सिर पर प्यार भरे हाथ और दुलार की  साया में,

बाबा, अम्मा का मिलता है प्यार ख़ास,

क्यूंकि मूल से प्यारा होता है ब्याज,

चाचा, चाची का मिलता संग साथ,

जो सिखाता रिश्तों की गहराई साफ़,

भैया के मन में आता, ख़त्म हो गया मेरा एकछत्र राज़,

फिर जैसे जैसे कलि खिलती है, 

भाई-बहिन के प्यार की खुशबू महकती है.....

ज़िन्दगी के अपने ही रंग होते हैं,

अलग अलग रिश्तों के संग होते हैं.......

नाना, नानी की बचपन से सीख और प्यार,

भर देती कलि में संस्कार,

मौसी का प्यार मिलता हरदम,

क्यूंकि अब मौसी का ध्यान रहता ,

इस नन्ही कलि पर हर दम,

बुआ, फूफा का अमिट दुलार,

चह्काता  इस कलि को बार बार.........

ज़िन्दगी के अपने ही रंग होते हैं,

अलग अलग रिश्तों के संग होते हैं.......

धीरे धीरे ये कलि और खिलती है,

नए नए रिश्तों संग मिलती है,

गुरु का होता जीवन में प्रवेश,

इस रंग की अहमियत है विशेष,

ज्ञान का अमृत कलि में बढता है,

जीवन की बारीकियों का पता चलता है......

फिर आते है नए नए दोस्त संग-साथी,

जिनके साथ शुरू हो जाती,

प्रतिस्पर्धा,पढाई,लड़ाई और मौज मस्ती,

धीरे धीरे कलि में रंग बढता है,

ज्ञान रूपी उजाला अज्ञान तिमिर को हरता है........

जब मिल जाये भाभी रूपी दोस्त का साथ,

कलि कैसे न करे अपने ऊपर नाज़,

जीवन में आता जब प्यारा चंचल भतीजा,

कलि की मुस्कराहट का नहीं लगा सकते आप अंदाजा.......

जब मिलती किसी अच्छे सत-गुरु की शरण,

तो  कलि की महक का नहीं हो सकता शब्दों में वर्णन......

ज़िन्दगी के अपने ही रंग होते हैं,

अलग अलग रिश्तों के संग होते हैं.......

धीरे धीरे कलि फूल में बदलती है,

हवा, धूप, बारिश, तूफ़ान में,

अपना अस्तित्व बनाने को तरसती है,

जो फूल सह जाता इन सब का वार,

वो परिपक्व होता और फैलाता खुशबू बेशुमार.....

आते अलग अलग लोग हर रोज,

दे जाते कोई नई सीख ,कोई नई सोच,

ज़िन्दगी के अपने ही रंग होते हैं,

अलग अलग रिश्तों के संग होते हैं.......

ये फूल अब उस पड़ाव पर चलता है,

जब कोई दूसरे  समान फूल से मिलने को तरसता है,

जब आ जाता मन चाहा सम-फूल,

फूल की महक बढ़ जाती भरपूर,

नए नए रिश्तों से होता है मिलन,

सास- ससुर का होता जब जीवन में आगमन,

देवर, नन्द, नंदोई,भांजा बन जाते ख़ास,

फूल को लगता हो जाऊ मैं इनके दिल के पास,

चाचा-चाची ,भाई- बहिन,

बन जाते अटूट बंधन........

ज़िन्दगी के अपने ही रंग होते हैं,

अलग अलग रिश्तों के संग होते हैं.......

जब दो फूल मुस्कुराते साथ साथ,

ये सब रिश्ते बन जाते और ख़ास............

ज़िन्दगी के अपने ही रंग होते हैं,

अलग अलग रिश्तों के संग होते हैं.......

--- Akansha(2011) 

Control what you can!!!

There are situation in life where things seems uncontrollable. At that point of time it is better to control and focus on our circle of control to remain calm, positive and motivated. We have to learn and must learn to overlook and move ahead of the things which fall outside our circle of control.

Life is too short to focus on things which are of no use. Let's keep enjoying life and rocking!!! 

Cheers

Akansha

Perception of excellence and success.

 I would like to share a learning from #Mahabharat.

There are 2 ways of achieving excellence:

1. "#Being_Shrestha" - Focus is on proving that you are better than others. There is no doubt that Karna was an excellent archer but he always wanted to beat Arjun in order to prove himself as a 'Shrestha' Dhanurdhari (archer).

2. "#Being_Uttam" - the focus is on self-discovery. Competing with yourself and pushing your limits gradually. Arjun was a 'Uttam' yodha. His focus was on learning new skills.

Krishna has emphasized that being Shrestha is good but one day you will reach a point of stagnation. Being Uttam brings continuous improvement and there is no limit. The decision lies in our hands. Whom do we want to compete with - Others or Thyself?

This is not about Arjun v/s Karna. This is about their perception of excellence and success.

Let's stand together to overcome this post covid darkness and spread happiness and positivity to all for speedy recovery!!!

Covid-19 leaves debilitating and lingering after-effects that can impair productivity at work.
Generally termed as long covid leaves after effects like exhaustion, palpitations, unusual pain in the calves, brain fog, multi-organ impacts, formation of blood clots resulting in pulmonary embolism or stroke, nascent diabetes and most importantly is the psychological impact of the disease resulting in depression and anxiety.
Covid had hit at least 1.4% of India's working-age population till date and all these symptoms have affected the covid survivors' ability to work at various degrees
This has to be taken into account by employers. New HR policies are needed to be framed and counselling sessions regarding mental well-being is need of the heart.
Let's stand together to overcome this post covid darkness and spread happiness and positivity to all for speedy recovery .
#mentalhealth #wellness #india #hr #postcovidrecovery #postcovidworkplace
#stressmanagement #letswintogether #spreadpositivity #spreadhappiness

Save mother earth

In the second wave of this deadly pandemic are witnessing the whole system collapsing when oxygen is being given to just some of the sick patients. 

God has made natural system which gives oxygen the whole world. Let's take pledge to strengthen the system created by almighty before we collapse all. 

Let's plant more and more trees and love our mother earth. 

#planttrees #saveearth #savelife #loveearth

Don't expect, just accept!!!

Once I visited one of my friend who just did meditation and was upset. I asked the reason. She said my husband talks on phone when I meditate. She said that she needs silence to concentrate. 

I heard a noise coming from downstairs of vegetable vendor selling vegetables. I asked this voice was also coming when you were meditating. This voice is much louder than voice of your husband talking on phone. 

Was this disturbing you? 

She replied that vegetable vendor is doing his work and his voice was not disturbing her. She said she was meditating so she didn't heard voice of vegetable vendor but voice of her husband was striking in her ears every now and then. 

I smiled and said that since you have accepted the voice of vegetable vendor and your thoughts are in line that it will be there and won't trouble so it's not troubling. 

But you have expectation that your husband should keep quiet when you meditate so his voice troubles you. 

It's all in the way you think...If you accept that your husband is doing his work talking on phone, his voice will also not trouble you. 

She also smiled as if she has got the secret. 

It's all in the way we think. If we don't expect anything, we will be happy always. 

So replace expect with accept and see the magic!!! 

Happy women's day!!!

International Women's Day is celebrated on March 8 across the world. It's a day when everyone shows appreciation, love, and respect towards women.  But, we, women should not wait for any recognition or appreciation from others.

Enjoy women hood ,take good care of ourselves and be happy.

Four Hormones which determine a human's happiness.

1. Endorphins

2. Dopamine

3. Serotonin

4. Oxytocin

It is important we understand these hormones

as we need all four of them *to stay happy.*

Let's look at the first hormone, the Endorphins.

When we exercise, the body releases Endorphins.This hormone helps the body cope with the pain of exercising. We then enjoy exercising because these Endorphins will make us happy.Laughter is another good way of generating Endorphins. We need to spend 30 minutes exercising every day, read or watch funny stuff to get our day's dose of Endorphins.

The second hormone is Dopamine.

In our journey of life, we accomplish many little and big tasks, it releases various levels of Dopamine.When we get appreciated for our work at the office or at home, we feel accomplished and good, that is because it releases Dopamine. 

The third hormone Serotonin is released when we act in a way that benefits others.When we transcend ourselves and give back to others or to nature or to the society, it releases Serotonin.*Even, providing useful information on the internet like writing information blogs, answering peoples questions on Quora or Facebook groups will generate Serotonin.

That is because we will use our precious time to help other people via our answers or articles.

The final hormone is Oxytocin and it is released when we become close to other human beings. When we hug our friends or family Oxytocin is released. The "Jadoo Ki Jhappi" from Munnabhai does really works. 

So in order to feel more and more *happy* day by day ...

1.*Motivate ourselves to play and have some fun*

*-Endorphins*

2. *Appreciate others* for any small or big achievements 

*-Dopamine*

3. *Inculcate sharing* habit through you to others

*-Serotonin*

4. *Hug* your family, friends......

*-Oxytocin*

Have a Happy Life!!!! 

Happy women's day!!! 

Secret to happiness!!!

Once one teacher gave all students in class a balloon. He asked all of them to blow their balloons and write their name on balloon and throw in the hallway. All students did same. 

The hallway was full of balloons. He mixed all the balloons. Now he asked students to find their own balloon and given time was 5 minutes. 

All students searched but none could find the one with his/ her name. Time was over

Now he said that each one pick one and hand over to the person whose name is written on it. In 5 minutes all balloons were in the hands of right student. 

He explained to his students that these balloons are like happiness. If you keep finding yours, you will never be able to find. 

But if we care about happiness of others, we will be able to find ours too!!! 

Kick the E out of EGO!!!

Ego is just of three letters E G and O but this word is so powerful that can put any relationship to an end. 

Caring and loving others is the only foundation on which relationship are based. Having pre occupied thoughts and thinking from only your point of view can destroy any relationship. 

Not talking with your spouse and keeping busy in gadgets can divert your attention for short span but ultimately it is capable in ruining any relationship.Behaving in irritating manner will not serve any good. 

Open for communication, loving and caring each other is the only fundamental stone which can make any relationship strong. No matter how bad your mood is, never sleep without talking to your spouse. It is the golden rule for healthy and strong relationship. 

Remove E from EGO and let it go!!! 

Goddess Saraswati won't come to bless your child if books are clean!!!

Reading is most effective way through which one can Develop understanding, increase awareness, become creative , develop vocabulary and overall communication skills can improve. 

Don't Stop your child from writing on books or don't advise to keep books clean. Clean books won't let Goddess Saraswati come to bless your child. 

Rather encourage your child to underline more, fold the corner, write meanings of words which are new, make marks. This is perhaps help him understand more and the more skills will be developed ie goddess saraswati will bless your child. 

The more you read the more you learn!!! 

Happy learning 😊

Being hydrated is directly proportional to being optimistic!!!

We all know that water is skins best friend but  it is also mind's bestest friend. Research shows 40% of those who drink 6  or more glasses of water per day strongly are optimistic person in comparison to just 10% of those who drink less than one glass of water per day.

How many glasses of water do you drink in a day?It is recommended to drink atleast 8 glasses of water per day. 

For healthy glowing skin, positivity and several other health benefits let's make a habit to drink adequate amount of water per day. 

Let's live a happy positive life!!! 

Start Operation Hydration.... 

https://www.gymondo.com/magazin/en/motivation-en/5-ways-to-create-positive-energy-by-staying-hydrated

Walking is key to success is the new mantra!!!

Walking is key to success is the new mantra.
In this new world, where we all are working from home and physical activities have reduced due to this pandemic. Coming out of this halted world we need to focus on our fitness.
Keeping ourself physically and mentally strong and healthy is need of the hour.
Walking 10000 steps a day( as per WHO recommendations) can do that magic. Initially 10000 looks like a big number but can be achieved by regularly increasing your target. Walking not only makes you physically but also mentally strong. It improves your concentration.

#mentalhealth #fitness #workingfromhome #exercise #mindfulness #health #walkandtalk #walk #10000steps #success #wellbeing

https://www.readersdigest.ca/health/fitness/walking-10000-steps-a-day/

Work hard!!! Enjoy harder!!!

Once Jaggi asked God that what million years are meant for God. God said they are just a minute for him. He further asked what are million dollars for him. God replied a penny. 

Jaggi trying to be clever asked God to give him a penny. 

God, the almighty knowing his intention sarcastically replied that he will get in a minute. 

Likewise you cannot get anything until you work for it. Nothing will be handed to you. The more you will work to earn things, the more satisfied and peaceful you will feel. 

Work hard!!! Enjoy harder!!! 

An open confession and letter of love to my husband on this so called propose day.

Being into 10th year of our marriage, our journey of life together has seen so many ups and downs. There have been moments of hot arguments, romantic talks, cuddling together, loud laughs and many more. 

I openly confess today on getting loud and shouting during those moments of hot conversation. I confess I am unable to control my anger and sometimes utter words which are not supposed to be said. 

Also, I opening accept that I am blessed to have you as my soulmate. Having you is like breathing. You are only one who can handle all my mood swings to perfection. You are my alter ego. You are the one who gave me the real meaning of living life. You took out the real akansha out of me. You are my motivation and one who taught me how to laugh aloud. Holding your hand, resting on your shoulder, standing by your side are the ways through which I get my all stress out and feel on top of the world. You are reason of my happiness. 

On this 10th propose day of our married life the, I propose you to be my soulmate, my partner in crime, my better half , my everything for the rest of my life and for many many lifes to come. 

Luv u to moon and back❤❤

On a lighter note: tera peecha na mai chodugi soniye😆

Cheers

Akansha

Let's keep celebrating life🤗

A cup of tea can do the magic!!!

I was not feeling well, having severe headache and it looks like I don't have any energy left to stand up. 

My hubby made me a cup of tea and magic happened. This cup of tea served with love and care made me feel better and positive again. I regained my energy. 

It takes time to get well if you are sick but these small incidences can boost your morale and makes you feel special. 

Can being lazy be fruitful???

It's sunday evening, I feel like being lazy today. I am in my bed inside the blanket and don't feel like doing anything. 

Is it bad??? 

Life is fast and you are on your toes everyday taking care of the kids, doing household chores and your professional life. You hardly find time for yourself except the evening walk. You also need to get recharged for better tomorrow with more energy and motivation. 

Being lazy for a while is the pill which makes you even stronger and gives time for self love and care. 

Be lazy for a while but come out with more energy and positivity. 

Much love 

#lazyme #positivity #recharge #moreenergy

Have burning desire, planned approach to pre determined target is secret to success!!!

Once johny was walking with his guru across the river bank. Johny was asking questions and his guru was replying. 

Johny asked his guru that what is the secret of success. His guru hold his hand and asked him to walk towards in the river with him. Soon the river water reached their neck. Now, Guru ji ducked Johny in the river. It was such sudden that Johny could hardly breath and was gasping. Guruji hold him tight inside the water till Johny started turning blue. 

Now, Guruji took him out of water and Johny gasped and took deep breath. 

Guruji asked Johny what you wanted most when your head was in water. Johny replied air. 

Guruji smiled and replied this is secret to success. If you badly want something then only you can have success. Success comes if you have burning desire to achieve something and you are continually working to achieve it. 

Happiness lies within you!!!

There was a man, Mr Joseph who was always sad and complaining about things. He was never happy and always was finding wrong in whatever happens. He was always searching for happiness. 

His negative attitude and his sad face spread gloominess and other people started keeping a distance from him. 

One day everyone was saying that the Mr. Joseph is happy today. To my surprise and curiousity, I went to him to see the rare sight. He was really very happy and it was treat to eyes to watch him calm, composed and happy. 

I asked him how the miracle happened. He said that he just decided to stop searching for happiness and enjoy life and life changed. 

Happiness is inside you!! 

I am proud mother of two naughty boys: My exciting journey

Having blessed with Jayash( boy child) in 2013, I always wanted to have daughter as second child. But no wishes can be bigger than God wish for you. I was blessed with second baby boy (vittesh) in 2017. 

Bringing up two boys was challenging and it becomes more exciting when your two sons are extremely naughty. I was on my toes most of the time fulfilling their demands and tantrums. Life became adventurous and stressful too as I have to stay at home to look after them. The outbreak of corona pandemic made the scene even worse as household chores also increased along with tantrums of my kiddos as Jayash school also came at home. 

I along with support from my husband patiently handled the demand of situation and try to be good home maker and good mother keeping my profession aside. 

Time passed and now Jayash is 7 and Vittesh is 3. Both of them are naughty but now Jayash is growing into caring brother and son. Vittesh is also becoming disciplined and my life is becoming bit easy. 

They both have started spending time together. I can now spare some personal time for me and have started spending time with my bestest pal: my pen☺

With continuous support and motivation from my husband, I feel like queen 👸 of the house amongst three boys. 

Struggle makes one stronger!!!

I still remember the incidence when I saw one butterfly struggling  to get out of the cocoon. 

I couldnot resist to see the struggle and cut the cocoon to get butterfly out. Butterfly did came out but was having swollen body and short wings. 

I , in innocency thought that the wings will grow by time and swelling will go away. I kept watching the butterfly for days. 

Number of days passed by, the wings never grew nor the swelling went off. 

Now I realize that  the restricting cocoon and the struggle was needed by the butterfly to get out through tiny little hole. These were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings to prepare itself for flying once it was free. 

Struggles makes you stronger!!!